Thankful Fridays: 12 July 2013

This week I am thankful that:

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  • I spotted a haze free, super blue, super white clouds sky. Sometimes the most beautiful things in life are really free. It’s just up to us to keep it that way by reducing our carbon footprints!

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  • I helped Lush Singapore in their Guinness World Record attempt. They are trying to raise awareness of the cruelty that’s involved in cosmetic testing and how LUSH does not test on animals and also do not condone it or support it in any way. All of the ingredients used at LUSH are purchased from sellers who do not test their raw ingredients on animals, unlike some other brands who claim to be cruelty-free yet have their raw materials tested on animals behind the façade.

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  • Melly (a friend, not me), helped my get some things from the YG eshop and I met up with her to collect them! Also met Yawen and managed to score stuff at the Accessorize sale!
  • Got a new coat of color at the salon

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  • Tried out Bull and Butcher and the food was quite good! Especially loved the Petit Tender and the Banana and Toffee tart. Recommended! But, do go in when you have lots of time to spare because the food took quite long to arrive. Service is so-so.
  • Went for tea with the family at Goodwoord Park! Seriously the durian mousse cake is to die for!
  • Finally submitted a proposal and it’s totally weight taken off my shoulders. It’s not the end of it though so still a little nervous but at least the first step has been taken..
  • The peony has been 80% finalized and I am so in love with it! Can I say more? NO hahaha.

Is this part of being an adult? I feel like now, there are so many things that I really cannot disclose. :/ Ok the last point is a choice but still. Like how I said in my previous post that my next post would be about *** but I haven’t put it up because I’m still waiting for clearance..hahaha.

Anyways, back to my project life! (Keep checking back for scoops~)
Melissa xx

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Thankful Fridays: 12 July 2013

Alien

Recently I’ve been feeling more and more like I don’t really belong here.. I feel like I’m from another plane of existence, maybe even another planet.

I’m getting increasingly confused and pissed off by the things people do. I cannot find a reason for their behavior, and when I discuss with my brain in hopes of getting an explanation, it just seems to be an infinite loop. I cannot find conclusions. Why people do what they do, what made them do it, how they convinced themselves to do it, and what they had hoped to achieve by doing what they did. Like when people insist on squeezing into an already packed bus, end up being stuck at the door and making it impossible for the driver to close the doors and in turn wasting everyone’s(themselves included) time. What is achieved with such behavior? Why not just wait for the next bus? Same goes for lifts.

Why not let other people out of the lifts (and trains too!) first before jostling in? 1) If you let people out first, that means more space for you to be in 2) The lift isn’t going anywhere if the people already inside haven’t gotten out! What will that few seconds of getting into the carriage first, before letting people out, do for them? What would it do for everyone? NOTHING! How does it make squishing and squashing worth it? Why do people do it?!

Also my laughing and crying points are really different from most people I know. Say, someone tells a joke and everyone bursts out laughing except me. It’s not that I don’t get the joke, it’s just I don’t find it funny. And like when I watched A Walk to Remember, most people say that the scene where Jamie told Landon she had leukemia made them cry. I didn’t shed a tear. I actually cried more when I watched The Princess Diaries 1&2 than A Walk to Remember. Yea.

There’s so much more that makes me feel like I just don’t belong here but I must get to finding my mothership.

Alien

Sunday Thoughts

My friend Peace finally switched to wordpress and posted her first Thankful Friday! So happy to have another wordpresser in my life hahaha. Check out her blog HERE!

So when I checked out her blog, I saw another post that she had posted, and came across this.

it happened because one party decided to stop trying,  when we allow the busyness of life to take over, when we stop taking the effort to find time and a midst our busy life to update about each other’s  life. the friendship eventually were only left on the rack, till it’s a matter of time friends becomes stranger that knows each other very well. –thtriplel

This particular post of hers is about friends and losing them sometimes, and I cannot agree more. It is true. Relationships fail because one party starts to stop trying.

Throughout all these years I have learnt that people who really want to be in your life will make an effort to be, so it’s not worth it to chase after them. As long as you have done your part; you have tried, it’s important to know where to draw the line. Don’t allow them to be your priority when you are only an option to them.

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So if you’re feeling dejected because you’ve lost some people who you thought would be there for you no matter what, cheer up, and just remember that someone better will come along. You have to get rid of the weeds to allow the flowers to grow. 🙂

Happy Sunday!
Melissa xx

Sunday Thoughts

Inferno -Dan Brown

*This is not a review, just my thoughts. There are no spoilers.*

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Phew. What an epic journey it has been with Inferno. In about 24 hours, I have felt like I was right beside Robert Langdon, embarking on, witnessing an adventure. In order not to spoil it for those who have yet to read it, I will not go into details the places I’ve “explored”.

I think this is what makes Dan Brown so awesome. He allows you to easily sink into the book, and it encompasses you, letting you feel like you are right there in the thick of the action. This is also what makes all of his books impossible to put down. I can’t wait for the next book already! And definitely looking forward to The Lost Symbol movie.

If you haven’t read Dan Brown’s works before, you definitely should. If you want to start with “Inferno”, you can. Not having read the previous books will not affect it a lot.

Thank you, Mr Dan Brown. Please bless us with more.
Melissa

Inferno -Dan Brown

Phoenix

On my previous Thankful Friday post, I talked about how I’m thankful I met someone who made me want to try harder to be positive, and now I feel like elaborating on it.

This post is titled Phoenix because that’s the situation we met in. Well it wasn’t the first time we met, but it was the first time we talked proper. And come to think of it, she does remind me of a Phoenix. You know how Phoenixes grow old, burst into flames, then rise from the ashes and become a new bird again? She reminds me of that, because in the short conversation we had, I’m sure I only had a sneak peek into the first page of her encyclopedia of assholes and crappy experiences. I’m sure she has experienced so much more which I haven’t had the chance to hear about, yet she is able to stay so damn positive. Her positivity is so true that it infects you. She’s not pretending to be positive; when I heard her talk, I could sense that she honestly believed in it, and I could feel it. Her optimism reverberated through my bones.

When she spoke, even though it wasn’t an immediate eureka “I am so lucky” moment, the first thought that came to my mind was “this person is some sort of Goddess..how does she stay so cheerful?”. Then I just got engrossed in hearing about her experiences.

The next day I thought about what happened. Then I felt something like a paradigm shift. I thought about how, if she has gone through SO much crap, met so many assholes and yet can still have so much faith in humanity, I don’t even have a right to be complaining about my life. Like, I’m sure the amount of idiots I’ve come across don’t even add up to a tenth of hers. My life is already pretty darn amazing.

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So ever since, I’ve been less jaded, and everyday I wake up feeling like something wonderful is about to happen. I remember my horseshoe and clovers and remember I am lucky.

Isn’t it just so miraculous? Where sometimes you randomly meet strangers and they have the ability to make such a difference in your life?

Thank you, you. 🙂
Melissa xx

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Thankful Fridays: 5 Apr 2013

This week I am thankful that:

  • It’s April! April is my favourite month not just because it’s my birth month
  • I was able to catch a few games at the SRC Softball Carnival. We haven’t been there in years cos we’ve all been so busy!
  • my air-conditioner is working, because it has been insanely hot
  • my laptop is working; I need it every minute of my day because I have a very important task to achieve
  • we have the ability to do more and change the results, even though it hasn’t been looking rosy for us
  • only 15 days left to go

So anyways, I’ve realised that ever since I started doing Thankful Fridays (which isn’t that long ago), I have really become a happier person in general. Sure, people might think that the things I’m thankful for are just really small, trivial matters that I’m putting up just to fill bullet points, but really, they are more than that.

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As I do it more and more, these “small” and “trivial” matters have aided me in seeing the bigger picture, it has made it clearer to me that if I encounter a setback, it is merely a small road-block with which I just have to adapt and find another route around. It has helped me see that yes, even though sometimes I think that things could be better, it is also a fact that it could have been much worse.

So I invite everyone to join me with Thankful Fridays! I’m talking especially to you, Peace and Yawen :p. It’s not going to be easy, it definitely still isn’t second nature to me, but at least I am trying, and I am feeling the results. Let’s do this together. 😀

Thankful Fridays: 5 Apr 2013

Being Judgmental

So some time ago, I had a little chat with a friend(?) about how judgmental people can be. People can judge you even without once having met you in person. All they need is just to hear about you or look at your Facebook photo, and already many things can and will be said about you. They will discuss how you look; your features, your hair, your clothes, maybe even your non-existent buck tooth.

Well I’ve always believed that everyone, to a certain degree, is judgmental. When you hear about someone for the first time, no matter what, to help you form a mental image of the person, your brain naturally starts deciding how this person looks like. When you meet someone for the first time, you look at what they’re wearing, what their hair looks like, and if you’re into details maybe you will notice their make-up, jewelry, socks, everything. And more or less, that IS judging.

Anyways I just wanted to talk about something really close to my heart; a very important life lesson I learnt the hard way.

Basically, when I was doing my internship at a hotel, I was sent to the front office department. And since the first day I got there, there was this Duty Manager(#1) who never made an effort to interact. I heard lots of hearsay about how she’s very cold and unfriendly and doesn’t like talking to people, is arrogant etc. So of course me being young and new and hearing so many things about her, I stayed away from her.

Then one day, another DM(#2) we were both respectively very close to left the company and moved to Hong Kong. A few months later I visited her in HK, and it just so happened that #1 was also there to visit her at the same time. And by that funny little thing I call fate, all three of us ended up having dinner together. And that was actually the very first time I had a proper conversation with #1. From that one conversation, many of the misunderstandings we had about each other were cleared up, and when we both got back to Singapore and back to work, we continued to talk.

After some time, I got to know her better and more, and I realised that she is nothing like what other people made her out to be. She turned out to be a super funny, smart, friendly and such a softie at heart.  She was just “cold”, “unfriendly” and “arrogant” because she was also struggling inside; she was extremely unhappy working in that company. And because I was also terribly unhappy there, we helped each other through it and of course became  a LOT closer. Then one day, she decided she’s had enough, and she tendered her resignation. She was always scheduled to be on the midnight graveyard shift, and I would stay on after my shift overnight with her even if I had a shift again the next day to talk to her, because I knew we didn’t have much time left. And ever since then, I have felt a sense of guilt.

Even until now, today, when I think about it, even though we are still close and chat frequently, I still feel awfully guilty for having let other people get into my head, for listening to and believing in other people’s judgments. I blame myself for not making an effort to know her for myself. Because if I hadn’t and had gotten to know her for myself since day one, we would have had much more time to spend together, there would have been a lot more I could have learnt from her.

Basically, I’ve shared this because I hope everyone can realise that being judgmental isn’t a bad thing, it’s not wrong, but it is erroneous if you let your judgments get the better of you and deter you from actually talking to, interacting with, and really finding out for yourself what the other party is like.

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Don’t let the people who have the power to make a huge difference in your life slip by just like that.

I know, because I’ve been through it. I was just lucky enough that it didn’t completely escape me. Trust me, this regret is not fun to live with so don’t make the same mistake I did!

Be the Change!
Melissa xx

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