Thankful Fridays: 26 Apr 2013

This week I am thankful that:


  • WE DID IT. We WON. It was definitely not easy. Competition was very strong, it felt like hell, but all our hard work, all the sacrifices we made, all the blood, sweat (literally) and tears(figuratively). They were enough. We really did it.
  • My birthday lunch at Basilico was much more enjoyable than my mom’s at Pollen
  • I finally had time to get my hair done, new coat of color and all
  • I finally had time to also go shopping..and bought a ton of stuff
  • Enjoyed a birthday dinner with Peace and Yawen at Happy Mookata


  • Received another Pandora charm as a birthday present! Thanks for the cute little aeroplane Peacey and Ngamun! LOL


  • I had the time to scrap something I’m quite proud of!

It’s been quite an eventful week..I guess it’s because I finally finally could afford to take some time off doing what I need to do. And I was feeling celebratory. But well, the war is not over yet, and I have to get back to work!

I hope Sunday is good to us, and rewards those who are deserving (us) LOL.

Until next time
Melissa xx

Thankful Fridays: 26 Apr 2013

Thankful Fridays: 19 Apr 2013

This week I am thankful that:


  • Laduree finally opened in Singapore! And my lovely mom bought me a bunch. They’re wonderful. Anyone who compares Laduree to TWG saying they are the same (and, they are macarons not macaroons) will be told off. Will blog a post detailed post about this soon.20130419_220037
  • Received my first birthday present(s)! Two Pandora charms from my wish list yeay! Thank you Penny and Mitch! 🙂
  • Sunday is almost here.. it’s weird, I don’t really want it to come, but I also can’t wait for it to be over
  • I am still alive. It has been super hectic but I’m glad we’re all still hanging in there.

Until next time

Thankful Fridays: 19 Apr 2013

Thankful Fridays: 12 Apr 2013

This week I am thankful that:


  • I was able to pull some time out in the midst of all these madness to go enjoy Blackball with Peace
  • I listened to my heart, did something, and felt SO much better after doing it. And even better, the person received it. I’m sure it will do what it was meant to do. Protect. (:

This has got to be the most difficult Thankful Friday I’ve had to do so far because to be absolutely honest, this week hasn’t been that great, and on Thursday everything just kinda hit rock bottom. But it’s ok, because now the only way is up. Things will only get better.

Don't Give Up

Melissa xx

Thankful Fridays: 12 Apr 2013


On my previous Thankful Friday post, I talked about how I’m thankful I met someone who made me want to try harder to be positive, and now I feel like elaborating on it.

This post is titled Phoenix because that’s the situation we met in. Well it wasn’t the first time we met, but it was the first time we talked proper. And come to think of it, she does remind me of a Phoenix. You know how Phoenixes grow old, burst into flames, then rise from the ashes and become a new bird again? She reminds me of that, because in the short conversation we had, I’m sure I only had a sneak peek into the first page of her encyclopedia of assholes and crappy experiences. I’m sure she has experienced so much more which I haven’t had the chance to hear about, yet she is able to stay so damn positive. Her positivity is so true that it infects you. She’s not pretending to be positive; when I heard her talk, I could sense that she honestly believed in it, and I could feel it. Her optimism reverberated through my bones.

When she spoke, even though it wasn’t an immediate eureka “I am so lucky” moment, the first thought that came to my mind was “this person is some sort of does she stay so cheerful?”. Then I just got engrossed in hearing about her experiences.

The next day I thought about what happened. Then I felt something like a paradigm shift. I thought about how, if she has gone through SO much crap, met so many assholes and yet can still have so much faith in humanity, I don’t even have a right to be complaining about my life. Like, I’m sure the amount of idiots I’ve come across don’t even add up to a tenth of hers. My life is already pretty darn amazing.


So ever since, I’ve been less jaded, and everyday I wake up feeling like something wonderful is about to happen. I remember my horseshoe and clovers and remember I am lucky.

Isn’t it just so miraculous? Where sometimes you randomly meet strangers and they have the ability to make such a difference in your life?

Thank you, you. 🙂
Melissa xx


Birthday Wishlist

Yea every year at around this time, the shameless part of me comes out to play. By no means am I trying to get anyone to get me anything. All I’m saying is, if you are really nice and want to get me a birthday gift, I just have a small request: PLEASE get only what’s in my wishlist, and I beg you NO BODY SHOP anything. THANK YOU to infinity and beyond. 😀

These are in no particular order.

1. Vagabond Ink credit/vouchers! LOL I have no idea if they even have such a thing but I would really like them.

2. Kenzo Amour EDP. The original Amour only please not the Florale or whatever thingamajigs. The one pictured is 30ml but you can get the bigger sizes if you feel generous.

3.Pandora Charms.

TimberlandEarthkeepersBoatShoe4. Timberland Earthkeepers Classic Unlined Boat Shoe

Also, vouchers from Takashimaya and Kinokuniya will always be welcome. xD

Melissa xx

Birthday Wishlist

Thankful Fridays: 5 Apr 2013

This week I am thankful that:

  • It’s April! April is my favourite month not just because it’s my birth month
  • I was able to catch a few games at the SRC Softball Carnival. We haven’t been there in years cos we’ve all been so busy!
  • my air-conditioner is working, because it has been insanely hot
  • my laptop is working; I need it every minute of my day because I have a very important task to achieve
  • we have the ability to do more and change the results, even though it hasn’t been looking rosy for us
  • only 15 days left to go

So anyways, I’ve realised that ever since I started doing Thankful Fridays (which isn’t that long ago), I have really become a happier person in general. Sure, people might think that the things I’m thankful for are just really small, trivial matters that I’m putting up just to fill bullet points, but really, they are more than that.


As I do it more and more, these “small” and “trivial” matters have aided me in seeing the bigger picture, it has made it clearer to me that if I encounter a setback, it is merely a small road-block with which I just have to adapt and find another route around. It has helped me see that yes, even though sometimes I think that things could be better, it is also a fact that it could have been much worse.

So I invite everyone to join me with Thankful Fridays! I’m talking especially to you, Peace and Yawen :p. It’s not going to be easy, it definitely still isn’t second nature to me, but at least I am trying, and I am feeling the results. Let’s do this together. 😀

Thankful Fridays: 5 Apr 2013

Being Judgmental

So some time ago, I had a little chat with a friend(?) about how judgmental people can be. People can judge you even without once having met you in person. All they need is just to hear about you or look at your Facebook photo, and already many things can and will be said about you. They will discuss how you look; your features, your hair, your clothes, maybe even your non-existent buck tooth.

Well I’ve always believed that everyone, to a certain degree, is judgmental. When you hear about someone for the first time, no matter what, to help you form a mental image of the person, your brain naturally starts deciding how this person looks like. When you meet someone for the first time, you look at what they’re wearing, what their hair looks like, and if you’re into details maybe you will notice their make-up, jewelry, socks, everything. And more or less, that IS judging.

Anyways I just wanted to talk about something really close to my heart; a very important life lesson I learnt the hard way.

Basically, when I was doing my internship at a hotel, I was sent to the front office department. And since the first day I got there, there was this Duty Manager(#1) who never made an effort to interact. I heard lots of hearsay about how she’s very cold and unfriendly and doesn’t like talking to people, is arrogant etc. So of course me being young and new and hearing so many things about her, I stayed away from her.

Then one day, another DM(#2) we were both respectively very close to left the company and moved to Hong Kong. A few months later I visited her in HK, and it just so happened that #1 was also there to visit her at the same time. And by that funny little thing I call fate, all three of us ended up having dinner together. And that was actually the very first time I had a proper conversation with #1. From that one conversation, many of the misunderstandings we had about each other were cleared up, and when we both got back to Singapore and back to work, we continued to talk.

After some time, I got to know her better and more, and I realised that she is nothing like what other people made her out to be. She turned out to be a super funny, smart, friendly and such a softie at heart.  She was just “cold”, “unfriendly” and “arrogant” because she was also struggling inside; she was extremely unhappy working in that company. And because I was also terribly unhappy there, we helped each other through it and of course became  a LOT closer. Then one day, she decided she’s had enough, and she tendered her resignation. She was always scheduled to be on the midnight graveyard shift, and I would stay on after my shift overnight with her even if I had a shift again the next day to talk to her, because I knew we didn’t have much time left. And ever since then, I have felt a sense of guilt.

Even until now, today, when I think about it, even though we are still close and chat frequently, I still feel awfully guilty for having let other people get into my head, for listening to and believing in other people’s judgments. I blame myself for not making an effort to know her for myself. Because if I hadn’t and had gotten to know her for myself since day one, we would have had much more time to spend together, there would have been a lot more I could have learnt from her.

Basically, I’ve shared this because I hope everyone can realise that being judgmental isn’t a bad thing, it’s not wrong, but it is erroneous if you let your judgments get the better of you and deter you from actually talking to, interacting with, and really finding out for yourself what the other party is like.


Don’t let the people who have the power to make a huge difference in your life slip by just like that.

I know, because I’ve been through it. I was just lucky enough that it didn’t completely escape me. Trust me, this regret is not fun to live with so don’t make the same mistake I did!

Be the Change!
Melissa xx

Being Judgmental